What comes to mind when you think of the month of November?

End of the Year, isn’t it?

Let’s start with gifting ourselves with a self-recitation of a Poem, as we draw closer to another calendar year.

I can see you smile as you end the recitation 🙂 That was the intention.

What do you like about November?

What I most like about this month is that the warm afternoons mellow into crisp evenings, and the city begins to enjoy outdoor life again. The highlight of this month in our city is the weather, which is just about perfect. The sunshine is comforting, and the winter is not intense.

And then, as the month starts to end.

Each of us, in our respective spaces, in some form or another, gets busy evaluating what went well this year, the misses, the hits, the losses, and the gains.

Amidst this subconscious-driven informal evaluation, little do we realise the narratives that emerge with the end of each review and the appearance of new stories in the form of thoughts, ideas, or fears.

Make a note.

Each year for each one of us is different,and individual just as our Lives!

I still remember a year ago, during one such informal evaluation, I happened to discover a pattern reading through my journals of the past 4 years. I found almost every year there was one piece that I’ve not been able to complete and had been carrying forward every year in search of thatone fine day I will …..and here I was in the fourth year with its still incomplete status.

Honestly, I was a bit annoyed by my procrastination, but the actual truth surfaced when I sat down to introspect further and understand the real reason behind it, as well as the extent to which I control it.

It turns out the reasons were valid, but in the context, I had very little control over it, which brought a shift in the way I viewed these “four years of drag and still an incomplete task”.

Finally, I decided to bring it to a close by marking it as an incomplete task, which I let go of!

I practised acceptance.

So,

Once you’re done with your formal or informal evaluations.

You will find that you have a long list of incomplete tasks, ideas, projects, dreams, and goals. Especially those with the ‘incomplete and beyond control‘ tag screaming for completion.

This is when you decide and, in doing so, delve a bit deeper to make that choice.

Delve deeper – by understanding the why behind your choice, what matters to you, the context and the control you exercise.

Few things in life are best left incomplete, and by accepting the way it is, we give them their worthy closure.

Because

Acceptance is not giving up; it is choosing peace with what is, so you have the strength to shape what can be.

If you wonder if such support exists that can help you learn and practice these phenomenal life skills of acceptance, self-awareness, and resilience, you can book a free session with mehere. Let’s talk.

Warmly,

Mehnaz Amjad

PS: Stay tuned for more in-depth practice of acceptance as a tool in our upcoming edition